Hi, I’m Amber and I’m a recovering people pleaser!
I spent most of my 20s and early 30s in relationships that didn’t serve me. I would find myself in “complicated” relationships with men who would never commit, and would ignore the red flags and justify behavior that I didn’t like. Even when I was in a committed relationship I would ignore the signs when things started to go south and instead of having the dignity to leave the relationship when I wasn’t being treated properly, I found myself trying harder! How insane is that?!
The worse they treated me – the harder I’d try!
It was like I believed that if the relationship didn’t work, I was somehow a failure. Because of this internal dialogue, I put up with way more than I ever should have in relationships. I was walked all over, used, and emotionally abused. And even after being treated like crap, I’d go back for more – trying to “fix” the relationship or the guy. Boy, no wonder I was so damn exhausted all the time!
After each relationship inevitably ended I was left feeling broken, worthless, and like a failure; my self-esteem lower and lower each time.
About 4 years ago, I started looking at my relationships through objective eyes. At the time I was in yet another unfulfilling relationship, which happened to be with the father of my children. As the relationship progressed, I felt more and more stifled; constantly criticized; and like I was always walking on eggshells. One day it hit me: if I don’t leave, my kids are going to grow up thinking that this is the way relationships are – and my decision was made. There was no way I wanted that for my kids.
And there was no way I wanted to live one more day not being able to fully be myself.
So even though it was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make, I ended it. There were times when I thought about going back so that we could be a family again, but then I would remember the way I felt in the relationship and I kept my resolve.
Once I left that relationship, I was finally able to take the time to do a ton of inner work and figure out my life path.
In August 2017 that path led me to coaching. I signed up for the Advanced Standing program at iPEC (The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching) and graduated in May 2018 and am beyond thrilled to be able to make a career out of helping women just like me find their self-worth again after numerous dead-end relationships. Through being coached myself in my iPEC journey I now realize what was causing me to play the crappy relationship record over and over and once I figured that out, it was a game changer!
I now know that helping other women see their own worth and stop settling for less than they deserve in a relationship is what I’m here for.
So if you’re a woman who, despite having your shit together in other areas of your life, are finding yourself in dead-end relationship after dead-end relationship and are TIRED OF IT, click here for more info!